-Wisemen speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something- Plato
In life you will always have at least a few people deciding to take it upon themselves to tell you “like it is” or at least how they perceive whatever it is they feel the need to let their voice be heard about, despite the consequences.
Whether it comes in the form of an e-mail, written letter or voiced verbally, words can still hurt and burn bridges if not chosen properly by those deemed “loved ones”.
Not everyone will agree with everyone they meet, befriend or are even related to. But being considerate toward others feelings is important in any relationship no matter how angry or hurt you are. If you expect respect you have to show respect.
Recently this kind of thing happened in my world where yet again family decided to “tell it as they see”.
Not to get into the nitty gritty of family disputes but this one came as a shock in the form of a letter. A situation that needn’t begun had the accuser had just thought of others and how it could affect their relationship instead of being so selfish and telling it as they see.
If you care about somebody shouldn’t you accept them despite their faults and mistakes? Shouldn’t you be there for them even for the little things as they have tried so hard to be there for you, the best way they know how? That’s what I thought a real family was. At least that’s what my mother taught me about true unconditional love.
It amazes me how many people thrive on other peoples mishaps in life. Enjoy seeing them squirm instead of holding out their hand. Expecting something in return after offering what one would consider a gesture of kindness, only to find out an alternative route, a guilt soaked con if you will.
Constant judgement on everything from weigh (or lack of), and finances to parenting, and cooking etc. If the person is already on the ground what gives you the right to kick dirt in their faces when you’re already covered in mud.
Nobody is perfect therefore need not judge before stepping back and recalling their own mistakes.
Situations like these are ones where you can either forgive and move on or cut the rope and carry on. Sad to say but this time it’s not my call.
— Until Next Post…keep dreaming!